I don't buy them as much at Christmas as when they lived at home. This year DD is in another state I just mailed their packages today, I try to get a couple of personal gifts and a gift they can both use. This year she is getting a Madame Alexander doll (she collects dolls), lip gloss and candles, and Godiva chocolate and coffee (they can both use this). Her DH is getting Addidas cologne (his favorite), a shirt and 3 DVD's (they can both use this). Then my other DD and her BF that live here: she is getting Baby Phat perfume, lip gloss and lotion and Godiva chocolate and coffee (they can both use this) and a Yankee candle and towels for the house. Her BF is getting a Nautica gift set, 3 DVD's (they can both use this) and a big bag of snacks and candy (they can both use this). The grandkids will get clothes and a toy. I don't really worry about getting the same amount of gifts for each or spending the same amount of money as I do trying to get something that they really want or I know they will really like or something they really need. I do spend more on my own kids than on their sig others though, that may not be fair, but oh well, that is how I do it.