Hi all..this may be long and rambling but I am very confused and I would like some feedback and honest opinions. I have a son, 19 yo..first year in college. His father called me today and told me to check out our son's myspace...seems he said on it he was gay.

now, of course this is a shock to us..and to be honest I am disappointed..although IF it is true I can accept it after of course I have time to think it thru. However, I truly do not believe that he is gay.

He has never ever once "acted " gay in any way, shape or form..no offensive to any gays, it is just you know, sometimes you can pick up on this. He went to proms with females, he told us he liked girls..he even had a little girlfriend in middle school. When he was small..around age 5 or so..he never once said he was attracted to boys or so forth..and don't gays usually know at an early age they are attracted to the same sex ? He went to dances with girls, and would comment on if a girl was pretty or not.

He also had male friends, and I believe they would of said something to me over the years if they thought my son was "gay" ( you know how teen boys can be ).

my ds was a virgin when he went to college...and he had sex with a female..which he called me and told me about . I guess however he also had a sexual partner who was male as well..

I asked my son if he was sure because he has slept with a female and one male..and maybe it is such a heady time, he is thinking he is gay ? Honestly, I have never any reason to ever believe he was gay growing up...

My dh says he may be going thru a phase...do you think so ?

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