Cubmom2, I know this is a hard time for you, but people who are "gay" are not so different from you and me. They don't talk or walk funny, they don't think differently, and they are amongst us as teachers, counselors, social workers, doctors, lawyers, men, women, etc. The difference happens to be that they are attracted/feel a stronger bond with the same sex. I learned a great lesson from a male friend who said, "I don't refer to you as Marilou, my hetrosexual friend. Call me your friend, not ____________, your "gay" friend." He had a good point.
From what I've been told, many of them don't come to terms with this until they are adults...they don't know as children. They are often involved in relationships with the opposite sex, but they are unhappy and things just don't work. But they try...because they want to conform to society. They cry over relationships like we do, they want companionship of a significant other, and they are some of the best friends you could ever ask to have. You are probably an incredible mom, and your son is probably just as incredible. Good luck with all of this. You didn't fail and your son is not the one with the problem...unfortunately, some members of society are the ones with the problem. Just MY opinion--please don't blast me! :-)

Marilou

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