I have a friend who didn't admit to anyone even himself that he was gay until he was about 30. All of his life he dated women, I think more because he didn't want to face the fact and actually admit he was gay. Also his father was a public official and he didn't want to embarrass him. He had a bad drinking problem and his life was a mess, until he gave into his heart.

When he told me, I was SO surprised, but it all made sence after I thought about it and he has never been happier. You can see his changed life now and not everyone knows, just the closest people (his father passed away just before he came out), but there is a period of adjustment for everyone. All of your dreams for him need to change now and that is a hard thing to do, but just be supportive and don't judge. It was hard for him to admit it to anyone, even himself.

Good luck.

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