My next door neighbor's have been married for right at 20 years, They have 3 near grown sons also.
7 Months ago, the wife came out of the closet and told her husband she was gay. He didn't have a clue about her true feelings. He told me she never said anything, acted anyway diffrent, nada. He was in total shock as her 3 sons. They just signed the divorce papers a few weeks ago.
She has moved the girlfriend in the home and the hubby moved out the weekend she told him this. I'm sure his ego was shot to heck and back to learn after nearly 20 years of being married and having 3 children to learn your spouse is gay. But, he took it really well. He still talks to her, helps her with the home, the kids, bills ECT ECT. He said, If she's happy then thats all that matters. Of course he would rather her be happy as a married couple rasing the boys, but He said there's nothing he can change about the way she feels , so he will have to accept her as she is.

I really beleive there's not a parent in the world that wants their child to be gay. every parent wants the chance to be a grandparent to BIO-Grandchildren, have their moment walking their daughter down the isle and all the good stuff that comes with the dreams we have for them. However, Life isnt always that bed of roses and people are not the same as their parentsand the dreams they have for them.

As a Mother of 7 children, 4 girls and 3 boys, I would be totally disapointed if one of mine were to be gay, However, I have lived my life by the chocies I made and I stand by them as well. I would also stand my my childrens choices too.I would want my child(ren) to know I support them , love them However, they would also know I didn't agree with their choices with whom they are sharing their life with. But on that same hand, I would also feel and do the same if they were in a straight marriage also. I have 1 child thats remarried, I don't get in their business and will usually not give advice unless they push me into it. I love her , suport her, but I also want her to know I'm there for her no matter what or whom shes with.

Sometimes, we have to let go and know you have done your best ( thats if you are totally against same sex marriages ) Know that this is *their* choice and accept they are an adult with real feelings even if it's not what we wanted for them.
If you do talk to him about this, Try to keep a open mind, allow him to share his feleings with you. and before he leavesfor the night let him know YOU LOVE HIM NO MATTER WHAT. This will help you and him get thru this.

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