Amist all of the posts, the thing I find the hardest to deal with is that many people would be "disappointed" if their child was gay. I just don't understand that??? We want our kids to be happy....period. If my 7 year old told me he liked boys we would work with him on expressing those feelings in an appropriate way, just the same as if he had feelings for girls. We aren't raising our kids with any expectation of them being gay or straight. That way, there isn't any "shock" or "disappointment". I guess we are the minority but it's helped us so far. Not saying anyone should adapt our ways...just expressing my view.

If I were going to come out and say I'm gay, I think knowing your parents would be disappointed in you would simply be heartbreaking. I can't imagine that. Too many heartbreaking stories. People can be so cruel.

OP, perhaps your son is trying to find his identity and right now, he's more comfortable saying he's gay instead of he is bi. I have 3 bi friends and they all had relationships with the opposite sex first and then came out as gay. It took them awhile to realize they were bi. somehow, it seems more acceptable to be gay or straight but a lot more people look down on bi-sexuals (at least in my experince). Be supportive and don't EVER let him know you are disappointed that he said he is gay. You can say you are disappointed he didn't tell you first but maybe it was easier for him to post knowing you would see if???
Hugs in any case.

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