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Originally Posted by kathylun Thank you all for your responses. My mother really has gone down hill since my fathers death. Within six months of his death she looked like she aged 10 years. She has been to numberous doctors, one told her to drink wine!! They will not say yes or no to Parkinson but I do believe she has it. I know her diet isn't the best. I will check out the B-12 issue, you never now. The funny thing is my father use to drive for Wheels for Meals, they would bring meals to the shut-in, and drive them to doctor appointments, and now my mother could use this service. My father use to say he has to go drive the old people around, the funny thing is these people where at his funeral. My mother is too set in her ways to have a roommate. I just want her to move closer to my brother in a smaller place. They do have condos near him for people over 60. His mother-in-law lives in one. Plus my brother is called on to do all the work around the house for her. He just cann't, he has 6 kids!
I know 64 is not old but maybe to my mother it is because her mother died at 65. I know that being in that big house all day alone has to be boring. I don't want to move her to a "home", that is not the place for her. I am just not sure what to do.
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I mentioned assisted living before and just want to clairfy that it is not a "home". My grandmother has her own one bedroom "apartment". It is a bedroom, bathroom, living room and little kitchen/dining area. She has her own furniture there. Pets are allowed where she lives. She takes her meals in a common dining room but has the option to prepare her own meal in her room. (she has a microwave, fridge, toaster, just not a stove/oven) The meals are prepared specifically for each resident (low salt, diabetic, doesn't like carrots won't put carrots on her plate.) She sits with the same group of ladies for each meal. She does her own housekeeping, but they will clean weekly if she wants. They do her laundry. Basically they provide minimal assistance if it is required (dispensing medication, assisting with dressing, etc) but residents have to be pretty self sufficient to live there. No one is walking around in their pajamas or anything. If someone requires 24 hours nursing care or monitoring they cannot reside there. Residents can come and go as they please. They also have field trips and outings for them, to events or restaurants or shopping. The residence is lovely, bright and cheerful. The improved nutrition she has received and the human interaction/mental stimulation have done wonders. She lived alone in her house for 15 years after my grandfather died and just sat in her living room all day, watching tv. Now she is active and thriving.