While I have not been in your shoes, I have known many who have been. I feel that your DH is unhappy with himself and it is easier to blame others for his unhappiness than to look inside his own self. From this day forward you need to take the steps to make yourself an independant woman. You are going to school so that is taken care of. Do your best to not try to persuade or guilt your husband into counseling...if he is forced to go it will not help anyway. Try to save as much money as you can...even if it is only $10-20 dollars a week. Open an account with your mom as the second name. Plan for a future that involves you being a single parent. You should not ever again beg the man to stay or talk things through. He has said his feelings and you have expressed yours. Now is the time to show him that you do not need him to raise the kids that "he never wanted in the first place". It may take you a year or so to get to the point where it will be your decision if you leave or stay, but you will have the power to make that choice. You are a strong woman and you can provide for yourself and your children without him...you just have to take the steps to make that happen.

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