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Originally Posted by RealCranky I believe I'd tell him that if he wants out of the relationship, that's up to him.... but you'll be giving him FULL custody of the kids, because, well, you've got a lot of work to do in your life, too. 
Or, he can be a grown-up and go to counselling with you.
Because #3, he goes back to being single and carefree, isn't an available option.
Really, I don't think it's so uncommon for people, men especially, to hit a patch where they think "This is so NOT what I signed up for!" and want out. You just can't go backwards, so you've gotta go forwards. |
ITA! Sounds terrrible, but what gives him the RIGHT to decide to just leave?! Who says he can quit being a parent? You can't, just doesn't happen. IMO anyway.
I would be so ticked and yes I would say "you have somewhere to go, right here with the 2 kids you made!" Then I would pack up and leave, just for a few days, but enough time to let him see what it feels like.
I really don't know what to say, there is no easy answer. He thinks life is better on the other side of the fence, but we all know that's not true.
DH and I joke all the time about how much he would have to pay in child support if he ever thought of leanving and he would only have about $600 a month for himself, not getting far on that!
He sees guys at work who get the money taken right out of their paychecks, they go home with nothing to their scanky little apartments with no cable because they can't afford it and sleep all alone with no one to talk to. Great life isn't it?