This might sound silly, but it works. To get your husband thinking about your relationship, get him a Hallmark card. Write something on there, or find one that says something like the following: Sometimes all of life's responsibilities get in the way of time for us, but I want to let you know that I love you, and always remember why I married you, and I would like for us to take time for us." Sounds gushy, but it's a way of "telling" him that you want him to reflect and spend more time on your relationship. It's sometimes much easier to do it this way, rather than sit him down and tell him what you don't like, etc, because that can start an argument or fight. Don't get me wrong, it's good to talk, but sometimes it breaks the ice doing it this way. Persuasion vs coersion. Good luck.