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Originally Posted by summerday76 That defininately varies by state. Here in NY you only get $170 a week short term disability for six weeks for a vaginal birth or eight weeks for a c section, which is much much less than most people's salaries. |
It depends on your company as well as your state. I'm in NYC and will receive my full pay for any period of disability related to the birth of my child. My co-worker who suffered from severe PPD received her full pay for almost 5mos.
Sorry you're going through this OP, but it sounds like you want the father to pay bills that are your responsibility, pregnant or not. Rent? Car note? No way.
I would be very careful about trying to force him to be more of a father than he wants to be before this baby get's here. Suppose you're able to force him to take on some of your pregnancy expenses right now, what sort of rights does that give him regarding his unborn child? What happens if a birth defect is discovered? Will he have the right to force a termination. What if there's a problem during delivery and the dr has to choose between you & the baby? Do you really want him standing there with the lawyer he hired to defend himself against you, demanding that they save his baby. Do you want him showing up at the delivery with his new girlfriend?
Speak to a lawyer, speak to social services, speak to your company's hr dept and find out what your options are. Just consider the outcome before you do anything. If you're only 4mos pregnant it sounds like this relationship went south pretty fast. Probably because you're trying to force him to be a father before he's ready. Don't put yourself in a position where he can force you to do things you don't want to just because your feeling a bit scorned.