For some reason, our society seems to have very little tolerance for any deviation from the norm. Girl, if crossdressing is the worst thing your husband does then you've got the world in your hands. If he was a druggie, a cheat, an alkie, an embezzler, or a raging lunatic, I would feel bad for you. But, all he wants is to wear some women's clothes. Yikes!! Just because we, as women, can wear any damn thing we want in our society, does not make him wrong/bad/crazy/perverse. Some psychologists think crossdressing has something to do with early childhood memories of comfort and safety. I vote for that crazy in utero time period when the testosterone is supposed to get in there and make a MANLY man. Sometimes, the testosterone gets there a little late, sometimes the receptors do not take it up correctly, and there are atleat 1000 other things that could go slightly askew. So- what does this mean? My guess is if he can feel comfortable wearing women's underwear everyday without any comdemnation then he will have less need to "getaway" on business trips and completely cross. Talk to him about what he needs to forfill this need in him. If you do not have teenager running around the house who cares if he watches TV in a ballroom gown. If he does have a need to go out in public as a female then it will be easier to do that in a large city. TALK to him and find out SPECIFICS!! Fear of the unknown is a whole lot worse then the fear of the known. And, remember- he may not have all the answers yet. It isn't like god gave him a crossdressing playbook to live by. He is probably learning as he goes just like the rest of us. Continue to talk to "us" if it helps with your transition.
