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Originally Posted by angel38 Obviously you're hurt by your mother telling your niece what you said about her friend . I would be hurt too... all you was doing was trying to help...I would let things die down ..I would back away and let your mother handle it. She choose to deal with your niece and she's in for one heck of a ride. She already been thru rehab she is going to have to hit bottom before she changes her ways there nothing you can do,,, nor your mother,,, it's all up to her..She may be dating these guys just to support her habit...When things start going bad like things missing in your mother's home then your mother will wake up and smell the coffee and realize her niece friends are indeed trash. |
Thanks Angel for understanding. Yes I'm very hurt by her telling what I said, Not that I care she knew that I said it because it's true, But HOW she said it to my Niece.
My Niece has not had a very *Normal* *Stable * life since she was born. When she was born I took over the better part of caring for her and her sister. Then my Brother moved back here and dropped the girls off at my moms.The Bio-Mom has had nothing to do with my baby niece since she was 5 months old . So to my mom She is her Daughter by all means and matter.When mom got her at 8 months old and her sister was 3 years old , Baby Niece was a withdraw baby from all the drinking and drugs her bio-mom did. My brother also a drug head ( WHY I HATE DRUGS AND ADDICTS )My mother although she wasnt the best choice for rasing the girls, she also had a bad drinking habit too, she dranked every single day for as long as I have been alive up till 3 years ago. But she still took the girls and till they hit the teen years she did a pretty good job raising them. However, she was getitng old and I guess didnt want to have to fight with the teens and just let the do and go as they pleased. My Mother has had health problems for the last 3 years and she has became addicted to RX Pain Killers, she had OD'ED 14 times in the last 2 years with the last one happening last june and spent 11 days on life support. Once she recovered from the life support I told the hospital she couldnt return to my home as I have had my fill of all the DRINKING, DRUGS AND FIGHTING that was going on. they kept her another 5 days till a judge turned down the order i summited to have her placed in rehab, he's view was she wasnt crazy and she was age 70 so if she want to rehab she was to do it on her own .Which of course has never happen and never will. But this has led to my niece taking the course in life she has took, all she has EVER Known was drinking and drugs. thats part of the reason I agreed to let her come back to my home after she got out. I wanted to show her the other half of life where there wasnt any drinking, drugs or wild life, where she would have a stable home and feel safe. But once again, my mom got her claws in my niece and over ruled me and started allowing her to get wild once again. Between that and the OD's from my mother I had enough and all but kicked them out in July.
I love my niece , I want to see her become a good person w/o drugs and w/o drinking her life away/.
My Mother honest to god thinks there's somehting *WRONG* with me because I dont drink, Ive never been into drugs, I dont live a *wild life*She has told me to my face I dont understand why people drink and do drugs, well NO cannt say I do understand why anyone would do this, However, I do understand WHAT happens to people that led this kind of life style.and from what I have seen from my Ex-Sister in law that would just walk away from her 5 month old and 2 year old daughters and from my brother that just dumpped them off at his mothers and of course my whole childhood of her drinking and the fights between her and stepfather it's not what I want for my niece and to think my mother would go and start crap like this between my niece and me. OMG I think the drinking and drugs has really damanaged her brain.
My husband told me not to worry about it it's their life and you only told what you felt and how you seen it and if it was him he just wouldnt care any longer. he's right, she is over 18 and mom is 71, but DANG IT i cannt just not care. I guess from now on I'll just keep quit and let them learn the hard way AGAIN.
Thanks agian for understand Its appreciated.