DH and I were married for almost 7 years before we even started trying. I ended up getting pregnant the second month we tried. DD was born a little over 6 months ago. I was 32 at the time and DH was 34. I'm so glad that we waited to have a baby. I have so much more patience now than I did when I was younger. DD was very colicky for the first 3 months, and I honestly don't know how I would have handled something like that 7 or 8 years ago. Another reason that I'm glad we waited is because we had time to travel and enjoy each other's company as well as pay off debt and buy a house. We always agreed that we only wanted one, but now that we have DD, I truly wouldn't mind having one more. As miserable as I was with the morning (all day) sickness, back problems, fatigue, swollen ankles and feet and the barage of constant doctor's appointments, I actually miss being pregnant. I also miss all the attention I got while I was pregnant. People never seem to be as nice to you as when you are pregnant. Complete strangers start up conversations with you, bag boys at the grocery store insist on taking your groceries out, you get special pregnant lady parking at some stores and you can get out of cooking and cleaning a lot easier. I also miss my DD being so tiny and experiencing everything for the first time with her, although she's really getting to be a lot of fun right now.

DH and I realize that were very fortunate to get pregnant so quickly and have a healthy baby. One of DH's sisters had her first baby when she was 40. She has tried several times since then for another baby, but has ended up having several miscarriages. She's almost 45 now and said she's done trying. Another one of DH's sisters tried for several years, only to get pregnant once and that ended in a miscarriage.

If you want a baby, then don't wait too much longer to start trying. If you really don't want a baby, or if you would just be doing it because you are being pressured by friends and family and think it's what is expected of you, then just don't do it. There are advantages and disadvantages to both sides, but the choice is up to you and your DH. My DH finally started pressuring me to have our baby because I kept procrastinating. Even though I agreed that I wanted a baby, I was terrified. I kept saying "We'll try next year, or in 6 months." Now that we have DD, I wouldn't trade being a mommy for anything in the world! It really puts your life in perspective.