We use time-out as much as possible. I also ground my kids from things (friends, TV, the house). However sometimes the only thing that gets the message across is a good swat on the bum. After their punishment, whatever it may be, we sit and talk about why they were in trouble and what they can do next time instead. We are trying to teach our kids the "do unto others" attitude. It is slowly working.

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