He doesn't care what other's think of him...it's useless. It's been a constant struggle with this computer business...I give up. My kids are old enough to have lost total respect for him. My daughter and him had a big argument cause she wouldn't do something, and answered back and he started yelling I am the dad, and listen to me and she yelled back at him..Your no dad, your on the computer all the time, look at mom, she is sick, do something to help her..I couldn't argue with her, she was defending me.

He just sits at the computer when he is home, and tells them to do stuff. I just have to worry right now about getting through surgery and getting well again. I can't handle dealing with him or this scene right now, so I will bide my time and figure it out later.

Kids are soo busy. My DD does help, I've even paid some of their friends to do stuff for me. Both boys are working and DS #2 is working and will be starting tech school f/t next week. They do what they can. I do online groceries and they deliver. I have a nurse to come once a week, but just to draw bloods and care for my catheter. I was going to get a cleaning service before I went into surgery but since it got moved ahead, now there is no time. My sister is busy and that's all I can really ask for help, so it will get messy. DD will make sure animals are cared for, and I'll make sure I leave her money for take-out and I'll stock the house up for the week with food. Plus both DS's drive so they will get something if we need it, or she needs it.

Thanks for the wishes.

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Eileen

**Some people are like Slinky's, not really good for anything, but you can't help laugh when you see one tumble down the stairs**