Thank you for all of the suggestions.

What I ended up doing was writing a list of people that I sent cards to that did not send cards to us (!), sent cards to that did send cards to us, and did not send cards to that sent cards to us! Confused yet?

I then threw out all of this year's uglies that had no personalized notes and kept those with personalized notes and/or photos rubber banded together with the list above. I'll read through them before we do next year's cards and will send cards to EVERYONE on the list that I kept.

I went through previous years' cards and did similar but cut out gift tags from pretties after setting aside all of them with personalized notes. I must have thrown out a few hundred and only kept about 100 so it really is better this way.

See, there is a method to my organization. LOL.