OP, I sympathize with you.

We used to receive a gift from a family friend every year. One year, we didn't get one, not even a card. I was worried it got lost and wanted to say something but DH said to say anything because if they hadn't sent anything, they would feel bad.

well, I guess she did send something and we only found that out because years later she mentioned why she didn't send gifts anymore: because we never acknowledged the gift she sent us (that we never got). It's a touchy subject to bring up.

We also thought we had a present/card "get lost" at our wedding because we knew a couple came and didn't see anything. You know how easy it for a card to get lost,slip thru the table, etc. So, we sent them a note thanking them for coming but to let them know we didn't see a card and/or gift from them. They told us they didn't give us one LOL I was embarrassed but if I had given someone a wedding gift and didn't get a thank you, I would be ticked and if the gift were lost, I would want to know.

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