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Originally Posted by flipper113  Now yesterday my FIL tells my husband that by BIL is leaving (my SIL and DH are siblings) he doesn't love her anymore. They have had problems and honestly she is a bitch (that's what the fight was over and I just have a big mouth and told her so). I don't know how he put up with her this long, so it really isn't a surprise to us.
My IL's are just devastated, he is an awesome guy and dad and I can't imagine the family without him. |
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Originally Posted by flipper113 Another developement too, apparently he's seeing someone.  A long time ago, he started going to the "gym a lot and wasn't home very often, so this is all really making sense now. And they think the oldest daughter knows, not hard to figure out when Dad is sleeping in the basement. What a mess. I can't imagine the things running through her mind. |
You just never can tell. You misjudged your BIL. The 'awesome guy' turns out to be just an average cheat. Could you have also misjudged your SIL? Could she be a witch because she's handling her marital problems poorly and lashing out at the wrong people? It sounds like they have their hands full and I'd stay out of it until I knew for sure how things were going to work out.
I've seen so many cases where the couple made up after telling everyone horrible things about their spouse. The funny thing is that they seem to be able to forgive the most terrible things about each other but can't forgive other people for hearing the revelations they shared while they were going to divorce. I don't know what kind of people your BIL and SIL are but I do know that a couple who are still living together stand a good chance of reconciling. I think I'd wait until I was sure the divorce was really going to happen until I offered support to either one. Sometimes, people don't want to spend much time around people who know the details of the bad times and if they do reconcile, they may not want everyone to know that they were ever having problems. I'd wait to be told about the divorce from them before I said or did anything, just in case the divorce turns out to be just a bad patch in their marriage.