I am NOT a lazy parent. However I do firmly believe that the work should be the child's and not the PARENTS. Any parent can do the child's work for them, that is not TEACHING the child to be able to work on their own, how to problem solve, schedule their time wisely, etc. that is just me doing their work for them and yes, I refuse to do that. I have one that graduated from college, one in college now, and one straight A 6th grader. The older two play guitar and are also very artistic. The youngest plays softball, basketball, is in 4H, and active in church activities. So we can't be doing too much wrong. I am an ex-social worker/counselor (mostly working with kids) and kids need to take responsiblity for their actions whether it's making an A or an F, the kid has to do it.

You say you worked together in college (did your parent do your work for you? did your professor do your work for you? did a fellow student do your work for you? No, I am betting you did your own work. So did I work with study groups in college, but nobody did MY work, nobody wrote MY papers, my parents didn't do the work for me and my professors didn't do the work for me. Although I did get help or guidance from professors at times, I still did the work.

I never said I wouldn't guide my child or teach my child how to do something. I can teach her without doing her work for her. I am very involved in all my childrens lives, as the class parent who plans all parties for the whole class, to volunteering at school, to being a Girl Scout co-leader, to being a Youth Director at my church, and working a part time job so I can be available for my child when she needs me and when I quit my job to be a stay at home mom when she was born. So please don't feel sorry for my children, they have/had excellect parents!

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