Wow, sounds like there are people out there who need to be cast into Etiquette Hell.

If it were me, I would NOT be going to the no gift wrapping shower. The very idea of telling people not to wrap their gifts so they can buy more gifts with the "saved" money is just about the tackiest thing I have ever heard of.

If I ran the world baby showers would go like this:
-Invite only close friends/family. None of this 100 people at a baby shower stuff unless you have a huge family.
-Reasonable gifts only. No $200 strollers/$500 cribs/$50 outfits, etc. Cute, inexpensive clothes that can stand up to baby barf/basic supplies such as diapers/middle of the road furniture, etc.
-Serve some light food at the shower-deli platter, fruit salad, finger sandwiches, etc. and CAKE. There must be a cake.
-Guest of honor opens gifts while other guests watch and oohhh and ahhh over all the cuteness(this is the best part of a shower, why on earth would someone NOT do this).
-Games/activites are optional with this one exception: Someone must write down what the mother to be says as she opens the gifts so you can make up the funny story where the things the mom says while opening the gifts are what she said the night the baby was conceived. A little immature maybe but always hilarious.
-Thank you notes should be sent in a timely fashion and be addressed/written by the guest of honor. Assistance from a friend/relative is ok for addressing them but this is NOT to be done at the shower.

(I love it when I play "If I Ran The World".)

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