I am having a tough time following these threads, but it sounds like DH worked for the community in which you live. If I got that right, I would be a little worried that raising Cain might bring on even more trouble and repurcussions to your family. If DH was out on disability, and the company is paying for that and/or the medical bills, they are likely going to watch like a hawk to find an opportunity to cut their losses, so to speak.

I'm sorry this is happening to you, but I do think you need to let the emotions settle and make good choices on how to respond.

cj/

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