Originally Posted by rose13

We can think what we would do, but you are the one to decide.
You said you are looking for reasons to go upstate.....so if you like parties, like the people who are going and would enjoy it.....then go. If you are invited to the second shower and do not want to attend another one, just decline that invitation and state the truth, that you already attended the first one.
BUT like I said, if YOU enjoy parties, enjoy the people and want to go to both, then go to BOTH. Bring a small gift to both, bring one big gift to one and nothing to the other, or a small gift. Many baby showers here in NY do not open the gifts anymore and so no one would even know what you did. Or if you brought nothing (and told your SIL in advance) who would know?? Who is keeping count?
Give the gift you want and attend the parties if you would enjoy them.