cashchik and susiecat... I completely related to both of your posts. I have so many people in my life that would be there in a time of crisis. I even have a friend that calls me her best friend but I can't bring myself to go there... and I love this woman dearly -- we are almost like two halves that make a whole. Just knowing that she is a part of my life makes me smile and we probably see each other twice a year (6 hours drive to see each other) and we only talk email maybe monthly?! She's a loner like me...

It's the terminology 'best friend' that is a deal breaker for me. It feels like a set up for disaster to me (because of past experience).

sadarl, your story made me sad. It is so hard to come to the realization that after all of these years, the friendship was rather one-sided. As you said, you are blessed to have your DH and kids. Hold tight to that bond.