If your husband is like mine he doesn't do it on purpose. Men notice different things than we do and they think differently. Sweetness and appreciation help when something is done whether it's done "right" or "wrong" (my husband puts clean dishes in the wrong place you would think he just moved in).
Most of the time you have to tell them what you want them to do and no it doesn't make you a prostitute if you make "deals" or "trades" with him. It's no different than saying "if you fill up the car with gas I'll pick up your drycleaning".

Men just don't see things the way women do.

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