Extreme, the relative that brings her is a single woman who isn't a parent of this child, and that woman has no kids of her own... so she does have a considerable amount of alone time already. That's what seems odd about it to me. The girl says each week, "I'm sorry I'm here really really early again but ____ dropped me off now because she has to get to church and she doesn't want to be late because she really likes to be early."

But yes, I agree with you - if she is going to be here early, that's exactly the kind of attention she needs. I have worked with her in other settings for many years and know that she started out with more strikes against her that really explain her behavior and necessitate special care when you interact with her. I'm really not at all averse to working with her ... it's just the relative's timing that is putting a difficult kink in what is literally the most hectic half hour of our family's week... all so the relative can go sit alone in silence for 20 minutes! lol