I have two brothers. I was in one's wedding and not the others and, between the two experience, I actually preferred NOT being in the wedding. You don't have to shell out bucks for an ugly dress and wear it all day, you're free to wear what you like, you have no responsibilities, etc. I'd relax, sit back, and just enjoy the day when it comes.

I'm sorry you were hurt, but it does always seem to be the case that the bride's family is more involved than the groom's. That's how it was for both my brothers. When it came to DH & me, all of our family was out of state, so there was equal "uninvolvement" in the planning. I did have both my BILs and one brother as groomsmen and my other brother walked me down the aisle (my father is deceased).

Hope you feel better soon.

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