Honestly for me I can understand your feelings, however to me when you get married its your day and sadly more attention and all the planning and basically everything is about the bride. However when I got married 24 years ago. I knew who were going to be in my bridal party as far as the girls. I had 4 brothers at the time, My brother Sonny since passed. Now since having so sisters I have one maid of honor my first cousin and then 2 best friends, Now with my dh it was a problem because he has 2 brothers and could not decide whom to ask to be the best man, however he decided to go with his older brother as the best man. Now bless my dh cause he knew how close I was with my Brother Sonny and he asked him and only him to be in the bridal party and not my other brothers nor his sister and nor any sister in laws.So for me the bottom line is while again I understand you feelings, but this is something you personally cannot control. I would leave it alone for the sakes of argument sake and not risk and family problems... Peace and try to enjoy the day for your brother and the whole family... Peace.. Catherine