I don't understand why her offer to pay isn't 'ethical at all'. It may be against union policy - I'm not a union type so I'm clueless - but against union policy doesn't mean *unethical*. If anything, I think she showed initiative and Mrs. Q may think it would be unethical to put the school in the position of having to pay a para extra because it takes her longer to get through the work with the kids, and is willing to pay out of pocket to ensure that things get done.

Why would you think you would *all* deserve more money if Stacey is the only one who would have been working OT?