Ok first of all this year we are having Christmas at home. Most years we either go to my inlaws in Canada or every 3 or 4 years to my Mom's in Florida. Last Christmas I told everyone that they could come to us and they all said Ok Vicky & Erik called it so we all go there. That is DH's family did. I knew my mom would not be coming from florida nor my sister or brother there. My sister here is coming for Christmas Eve and My brother that lives here is coming Christmas Day.
Ok so My niece tells me in June that she is not coming because she wants to be able to share the day with Her new baby and have the father(whom she is not with anymore) have some time with him too. I understand that and its fine. Then 2 months ago One sister in law tells me she is Not coming because she has a new job and said she would work and its her grandsons first christmas and she wants to spend it with him. Ok fine. Then 3 weeks ago my mother in law loses her car so she has no way to get here...However my Father in law offers to pick her up(they get along fine) She still says no because its Noahs(her great grandsons) first christmas and She should stay with the rest of them. Lovely! I am getting frustrated now but thankfully My father in law and stepmother in law are coming and bringing Our nephew whom is 5. So today I get a call from him saying He is not coming because His step son just broke up with his live in gf and they are flying to nova scotia to be with him. He needs them..BS! He has been on again off again all year with her and He is NOT a child and Is a very mature adult whom does NOT need mommy to cuddle him anymore. Its just another excuse! So he says maybe they can come for new years...I said WE have plans..then I said here talk to Erik..I called erik and he said whats wrong..I said its your father and I do NOT want to talk to him right now. I was pissed. YES I was..And I was crying..I am so frustrated at his family. Not Only because they cancelled but because these past 3 months have been very rough on my husband since he injured himself 3 months ago. He has been off on disability and has been in alot of pain. He is possibly facing surgery and He could use a nice FAMILY get together. Needless to say I am NOT looking forward to Christmas Now. I want it all to be over and done with.
BTW I too have been on disability but mine has been for longer. Money is very tight yet we scrimped and saved so that we had money to get gifts and a nice dinner etc. We bought for them..We are not buying for each other. There is no money for that.
I am still having my brother and sister in law Christmas Day but Honestly I am used to a bigger bunch of people and its going to be so different.I honestly could care less about gifts.I like the family get together and the good times together most. I also don't know how I am supposed to just go on next time I see the inlaws and NOT be mad. I usually do NOT hold grudges but I am just so sick of his family being like this.
His father was the last straw. He was the only one constant that always seemed to be there and never let us down and now he too has followed the rest of them.
I know I should Just let it go but I am honestly FURIOUS with them all .Dh was upset too and He would probably kill me if he heard me say this but he too was crying although..I am unsure if he was crying because they all are not coming or because I was so upset. I was pretty pissed and told him I was F___in done with his family that they can all jump in a lake and that we will have christmas with MY family and OUR friends and forget them. I apologized to him for being so mad ..That I know he hurts too and that We would be ok..we still had each other and THAT was not going to change!
