Originally Posted by dannic

OK I am sure that I am going to get flamed for this however since we are all entitiled to opinions, I will voice mine...
"Sad to see how she is still suffering from the evil actions of another after all these years." At what point in someones life are the required to stand up and be responsible for their own actions? It is so easy to have bad "behaviors" or "actions" and blame it on something that happened years ago... but there comes a time when one must be held accountable for their own actions.
My brothers and sister and I have suffered YEARS of terrible physical abuse at the hands of our father. We have all chose to handle it a different way however we do not sit there and blame that for everything that happens in ours lives. My brothers are both alcoholics.. do they blame my dad? NO they know they are alcoholics because they drink too much., plain and simple.. Why do they drink to much? Because they love the taste of beer and the feeling of a buzz. Does it numb some of the things that they went through? Yes but you will not hear either one of them blame it on my father.
And ehr husband, well he is enabling the behavior by NOT taking the children from her. Simple positive reinforcement.
Im sorry but it really irks me to see people blame everyone else for their problems.