Cubmom I totally agree with susiecat's post and realize each time I see her post she makes alot of sense.When it truly comes down to each day and the way we choose to live our lives, in the end, what is more important is "its our lives and we and only we have to live it no one else". I have become each day to try to wrap my thoughts and feelings around the true meaning of that quote. I always felt and still do life is all about choices and what is right for you and only you. So Cubmon thanks for your words and your post you spoke wonderful and also susiecat thanks for what your wrote. Peace to both of you. Catherine