usamon your so correct, the op cubmon does not have to explain her suituation here, yes she did come to the boards to discuss a issue and then came back to explain it further. As you said and as i have learned there are some subjects I will never ever discuss for the same reasons. I have long fugured out what subjects in my personal life I will discuss and which ones I will not. Granted again this is a open public forum and if you choose to come here and openly discuss some hot or debated or extremely personal issues, you will not always like the answers nor the replies. However I still believe that enough still if we disagree, we should be able to do it in a nice way, sadly that does not happen. Op cubmon I wish you well and sorry you have gotten some bad responses, you have no one person to answer too but yourself. Because again and in the end your the one who has to live with your decisions and choices. Best of luck and peace to you. Catherine