Thank you so much for the input!

I'm just glad to hear different responses/approaches. I was both touched and annoyed at the same time (with the other mom), until I got to read other perspectives.

DD and I did have a talk. I'm sort of glad this came up, because we were able to discuss living within our means, impulse buying, etc. I also explained our position against accepting financial assistance from others, in general.

I can better understand the mom's generosity after reading your posts. I'm taking it as such, and decided not to reimburse her, etc.

I didn't mind that she paid for lunch, ice cream, and a little necklace from Claire's that she bought the girls that had the 'be fri' and 'st ends.' To me, that was very generous, but appropriate.

It just seemed a little over the top that there was financial 'backing' on my DD's items. If these girls have another get-together, and they want to go to the mall, I will be very clear with the mom that DD can only spend what she's got. And I'll restate it with DD, as well. However, I don't think I'll be saying yes to another spree too soon. The park, the pool, bowling - those are more our speed for now...

She has now written a very nice 'Thank You' that will be going out in the mail tomorrow.

Thanks again!

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