Don't feel bad that you didn't invite her. You definitely have just cause for not doing so. Don't let her lay a guilt trip on you. You want to move forward, not back. I'm only going by what you say, but it sounds like she wasn't a true friend. She sucked the life out of you, your husband doesn't think she's good for you, she said mean things about you behind your back...the list goes on. Also, the party isn't being held at your house, it's at Amy's...and Amy doesn't want her to be there. I wouldn't do something I didn't want to do just because she's one of your bosses. If she is doing things to make your job difficult, there must be someone higher up that you can take this up with. Don't let her make your life at work miserable! You are doing the right thing by keeping your distance...you don't want to go there again with her. Trust me...I've been in this situation. Some people just never change. Just my two cents. ~Lisa