I personally have always believed and always will you cannot have your cake and eat it also. So for me personally anyone who decided to cheat on their spouse for whatever reason, must choose to tell the spouse , either the couple decided together they want the marriage to work and they will seek professional help and if that fails , and there is no hope for the marriage to continue, then divorce, then you can part separate ways and then find companionship elsewhere, then this way no one is cheating. At least this is what I totally believe in. Peace. Catherine