Well call me old-fashioned, but I think there is honor in keeping the vows you make. I think love is as much a decision as it is a feeling. I think it's a tragedy that so little thought seems to be given to the fact that it is not just about what the *other* person does, but rather about a high level of personal integrity regardless of the actions of the other partner.

I'm watching some friends set their children up for a lifetime of screwed-up relationships because they have lived in utter disregard for the vows they made to their original spouses. Rather than try to work things out in their marriages, they chose to stray... and after divorcing, now I guess they have decided they are free to be together... they are church-hopping with their four small kids, apparently looking for some church that will condone the fact that their relationship began as an adulterous affair that deeply wounded their original spouses - spouses who would love to have their families intact.

I see them and I want to throw up. They are unfaithful people. They are teaching their kids that mix 'n match is fine if it's what you feel like doing. They will become adults who see families as disposable units if you see somebody you *want* more than you want your spouse.

It makes me more ill than I can begin to say on an internet message board. I've absolutely lost all respect for people I used to think I knew pretty well, and it sucks.