I'd be more than willing to help out a kid who met me half way, but if he is leaving it all up to the OP, why should she be knocking herself out? If we as parents don't help our children to mature, who will?

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If this is going to be a Christian nation that doesn't help the poor, either we have to pretend that Jesus was just as selfish as we are, or we've got to acknowledge that He commanded us to love the poor and serve the needy without condition, and then admit that we just don't want to do it.

- Stephen Colbert.