I have to agree with you. If I keep doing for them, they'll never learn to do for themselves. I've offered numerous times to help him get ready...now, enough is enough. I did pick up a few things today at Big Lots...some of those bed risers so you can store things under your bed, some towels/washcloths, and a wastebasket. Then I was thinking how nice these towels look and I was thinking I'd give him some of my old ones! I got home and read what targetgirl said and didn't feel so guilty for thinking that! I've always wanted to teach my kids to be independent. I've always wanted my sons to be able to know how to do things so that they wouldn't expect a woman to do things for them. Well, I don't think I've done too well. My intentions were good, but I think I screwed up along the way somewhere. I ended up doing way too much for them. I'm kind of looking forward to him getting out on his own so he doesn't rely on me so much. ~Lisa