Too many parents have their own scripts which people who deal with their children are supposed to follow....police, teachers, coaches.

"Well, he may have done that...and I know it isn't right...but what you should have done ( or not done) is { fill in the space according to the individual script}. When you handcuffed him, spoke to him, took him out of the game, you made him feel bad, and we don't like and never do that in our house." **sigh**

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