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Originally Posted by marilynk  I don't know that the comment "at least he's alive" is rude---people say things that they think are appropriate in times of grief that really may or may not be "helpful" to a grieving family. For instance: "well, at least they are in Heaven" ---really? You guarantee that? You know for sure?
or "at least they aren't suffering"---yeah, but now the one's left behind are suffering grief and loss. "It's for the best/it was meant to be"---again, really?? You know this how?
I have found the best thing to say is "I'm sorry. Is there anything I can do to help?" is best.
I stand by my self-pity comment though! "Allowing" self-pity is not generally a good idea--it breeds depression, self-contempt and a whole slew of other things that just won't do anyone any good. |
I know I wasn't meaning to be rude about it and I really don't think anyone else was either ( or I hope not ). Sometimes its hard to convey just what or how we want to sound in typed words. I only meant and I do standby my comment if he doesn't get help in dealing with the depression ( even in 4 days since this happen ) it can and usually does turn into depression = self pity = lost value in you living. Thats a hard life when you are always so depressed about events thats happen to you. I hate to see anyone so depressed they believe or start to believe that being dead is better than what their life was before the event.