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Originally Posted by Ambrianna  She didn't marry him, but she didn't have to stay with him, either.
A person can treat you only as bad as you let them. After a point, the blame doesn't lie on just one person. After divorcing an abuser, those sentiments really rang true. |
As someone who lived w/ an abuser, how long did it take you to get your **** together enough to leave him?
As someone who was in an unhealthy relationship, how many times did you say "just one more time, and then I'll leave"?
As someone who was in an unhealthy relationship, was there ever a time (or multiple times) that you felt some or all of HIS bad behaviour was your fault?
How many times and how often did you overlook his faults because you loved him?
How many times did you forgive him--because he promised to change?(and they do "change" for a little while...)
Now, multiply that by about 10 if you shared a child or children w/ this abusive man....
People don't always make logical decisions even in the best of situations. Then throw in emotions like love (and sometimes we can't help who we love--not even if they don't love us back, or treat us like crap...) or fear of dying? It just gets more complicated.
Something I've noticed, women who have gotten out of abusive relationships can be particularly brutal and mean to women who may currently be in abusive relationships.