Here's another support post, from me, believe it or not. I personally do not understand why people (men or women) can't act responsibly and follow through on their promises, trusts, plans, future, and realize it's not all about them. But nowadays, that's it. It's all about the selfish person and while I've definitely disagreed with you in the past and found you to be all knowing, this shouldn't happen to you.

Get your act together, make a plan you can follow, and tread lightly on how much your kids know. I am not saying lie to them, I am simply saying don't make him out to be worse. My parents divorced and as awful as life was for us, and my mom, she didn't put him down because she knew we could see it ourselves. Try to be as neutral as possible in discussions with your sons.

Remember that this too, shall pass and get going now. Focus on the three of you, not him. Focus on the future.

dl