Marilyn, like another poster or two 'up there', I don't always see eye to eye with you, but I have always been impressed by your matter-of-fact approach to your marriage and your ability to acknowledge that things were not picture perfect, but that you weren't walking around wearing blinders. I always got the impression that you knew "it is what it is" and that your commitment to seeing it through overshadowed any emotional reaction you might want to have that might lead you to break that commitment.

So if it's gotten to the point that it is no longer acceptable to you, I think it is commendable that you have been able to come to that conclusion from a place of well-thought-out wisdom and not just a fly-off-the-handle fit. I am sure it will be hard, but it sounds like you have a good head on your shoulders and aren't under any illusions about the battle ahead of you.

Best of luck with this, and many prayers to you.