I saw the post yesterday and like another poster said, I thought you were talking about a tv show or something else, didn't realize you were talking about yourself. I know you said you didn't want to bring up the really bad stuff he has done in the process of the divorce, ok, but don't cover up stuff either. Your dh was angry or upset enough, when you said you wanted a divorce he would threaten to kill you or kill your parents/family? omg I mean, that is not something you should cover up to protect him imo... that's really out of line. Hopefully he is a drama queen, no pun intended, and meant nothing by it and was just ranting. But look out for yourself, and your kids, and the heck with protecting him....All the best to you and your children and sorry you have to go through this. It is hard and is going to be harder, but will get better down the road.