When my ex walked in the kitchen and saw a lease agreement for an apartment, he knew that I meant business. I, too, needed out--you're right, someone can take the abuse, lies, etc. for only so long. Please take care of yourself and put YOU first. Life is so short, and in a couple years you'll be asking yourself why you didn't do this years earlier. It's was tough hearing my son say, "Mom, I wish you would have done this long ago...then maybe I could have had a real dad." Good luck to you. I'm the first to say that it isn't easy, but it's worth it. I was married for 23 years...now, seven years later...I'm getting Marilou back. I missed her!

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