I understood it fine. My parents did much the same. Father worked days, mother worked 3rd shift. There are ways for you to have your own time, and have your own career if you look beyond being stuck where you are.

It seems you aren't happy your family is self supporting, you want more. My family is self supporting and I don't dwell on handouts or entitlements or whatever you are wanting. No one can help you to understand until you are open to realizing how good your family actually has it because you seem devoted and your husband works hard.

I know the prevailing attidtue, in general today, is give me, give me, give me, but your family is on the right track, there are values and responsibilities.

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