I don't get why the OP and others believe she has a 24/7 hour job and her husband doesn't. Does he work 7 days a week? Doubtful. Is the child not in school? Doubtful. If that is her choice, that's fine. But, often women take on the 24/7 care taker role and the man slides by. That is fine if that is going well. But, apparently it isn't because she is here asking for advice. I suppose we could support them getting a divorce. Although after the State factors in child support and what she could make if she did work, that might not be much. I can't imagine she isn't aware of charity agencies since her child is 8.

No one is dismissing the burden of caring for a special needs child. But, reality is what it is.

GL. I hope you find the answer you are looking for.