OP, if I recall correctly, haven't you had 'trouble' with your husband being too generous with others? Are you the one who posted some time back that you have an autistic son who needs dental care, but you have never taken him to the dentist... but your husband had given several hundred dollars to a fund at work for the dental bill of another person's child?

If so... and I don't mean this in an ugly way... that may be your problem. If he is making too much money for you to qualify for assistance, and has enough to donate to worthy causes... I assume that if he were to buckle down and focus on managing the money he does make on behalf of the needs of his family that you could find some relief somewhere. It makes sense that the government won't help a family that makes enough money to pay their own bills, but the government can't control whether or not you spend your income wisely, kwim?

If I remember correctly, you did not want him giving that money away, so I don't know how much control you have over this problem... but if your husband makes enough to give so much away, the government will have the expectation that that family money needs spend supporting the family.