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Originally Posted by marilynk  shut up! Constructive criticism is one thing, but dammit!
None of us know what she was told when she was given Faith to begin with. And courts do really odd things sometimes. Sometimes the court's decision don't always make sense.
And to bring up "having your own baby"? Bad taste and completely hateful and nasty. You make it sound like Faith is some object that can be swapped, traded or bought at the local big-box store.
You sometimes have some pretty insightful and helpful posts. You are usually always very blunt; and while I can appreciate bluntness, you need to step off on this one and think with a little more compassion and empathy. Otherwise, you just come across as a world class b*tch. |
Wheras the new kinder, gentler you comes across as a hypocrite. Momrajum TOLD us what the agreement was or did you miss that part? You seem to miss a lot and attack when you have no clue what's going on. Why don't YOU shut up and read instead?
I have great empathy for those who I think deserve it. Momrajum was paid to care for a child that the court felt shouldn't be with it's mother. The mother was set certain tasks to complete to reclaim her child with the goal being that Faith be returned to her when that happened. The mother met the criteria and claimed HER baby. Momrajum grew to love Faith and wants to keep Faith and doesn't want Faith to be with her mother instead of her. Understandable to feel that way but wrong to try to interfere with Faith's adjustment to her mother.
While I can understand Momrajum's pain, I no longer feel sorry for her because she's doing everything she can to destroy the mother's chance of bonding with her daughter and now, she wants to take Faith away from the mother! The court TOLD her that she's not Faith's mother and to step aside. You can think the court was wrong but it sounds to me like Momrajum ought to listen and do just that.
You can send all the virtual hugs you want but Momrajum has SAID she KNEW Faith would one day go home. She just hoped that she wouldn't. I would feel sorry for her but it's become more clear with every post that she isn't following the court's plan for Faith and now she wants to call the judge. She thinks it's 'wrong' and 'sick' that Faith will call her real mother Mommy. She had Faith calling her Mommy instead. That was wrong because she isn't her mother and it confuses the child.
FYI, it was actually Momrajum who more or less SAID that Faith is some object that can be swapped, traded or bought at the local big-box store and that she resented Faith being treated like property. Or did you miss that 'property' post too?
And yes, Momrajum should have her own baby instead of trying to steal someone else's. If she's barren, then she can adopt. Or she can hope that the mother give Faith back to her but she's closing that window tighter every day. There was that possibility but the mother isn't going to like her now. It'll take some work to undo that damage.
I stand by what I said. If Momrajum loves Faith as much as she says, then she should go away and let Faith get used to her new home with her real mother - like the court told her to. And no, Momrajum isn't Faith's mother. When the state places a child in a temporary home and pays for it's upkeep, the foster parent is just the hired help. And the hired help shouldn't be trying to take what isn't their's.
It's better for Faith if Momrajum stop calling her and crying and shaking and get out of the way so the natural mother has a chance to get to know her daughter without the self procaimed 'Mommy' always being in the way and trying to hold on to somebody else's baby.